LAKE COUNTY, Calif. – A local observance of Pregnancy and Early Infant Loss Remembrance Day was held on Oct. 15.
More than a dozen moms and friends gathered to remember their loved ones. Travis Rinker’s gentle guitar wailed as Elizabeth Arnold greeted the small crowd.
“Thank you everyone for joining us on this special day,” said Arnold. “Today is Oct. 15, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Today we remember all the babies born sleeping, those we've carried but never met, those we've held but could not take home, the ones that came home but couldn't stay. Today we break the silence. Today many of us can stand up and say I am a baby loss survivor.”
She continued by telling her personal story since the loss of her newborn daughter, and she was followed by several other parents with their own tender journeys.
The accounts shared common threads of shock, grief, the regaining of life and, most of all, resilience to carry on. A bond was formed between participants letting them know they are not alone.
“Each and every day in communities across America, expecting moms will feel their baby's first kick, parents will listen to their newborn’s first cry and families will celebrate the birth of a healthy baby, never thinking that this can happen to them. One in every three pregnancies end in loss. An estimated 500,000 miscarriages happen every year. One in every 148 babies are stillborn and three in every 1,000 babies die shortly after birth,” Arnold said.
“Today we reflect on our loss yet embrace the love. I encourage all of you here, whether you've had a loss or know someone that has to remember, there is no foot too small that it cannot leave an imprint on our hearts and in the world,” she said.
Desiree Perez and Jaclyn Ley helped arrange this special remembrance while representing Lake County’s Mother-Wise.
Ley shared how Arnold opened her agency’s eyes to the scope of fetal and infant loss in our communities and the need for a special event.
“As far as we know, this is the first public recognition of pregnancy and early infant loss by any Lake County program,” Ley said.
Although October was first declared “National Infant Loss Awareness Month” in Ronald Reagan’s second term 26 years ago, she is probably right.
Trusting that it’s never too late for healing, Mother-Wise already has plans for next year’s event.
Ley said that Mother-Wise supports Lake County’s expecting and new moms through all transitions that accompany motherhood, including loss.
Next, she described a virtual buffet of support through Mother-Wise, with fun upcoming events and even help for moms at home.
Ley encouraged everyone to learn more about Mother-Wise on Facebook, https://www.facebook.com/MotherWiseLakeCounty , or call her at 707-349-1210.